Signs You Already Need To Ask Help From a Divorce Attorney
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As you probably already know, no relationship is perfect. No matter how stable a marriage is, it will go through the best highs and the worst lows. It is up to you and your spouse to handle them throughout your relationship. However, when it comes to the point where divorce comes to mind, that is already a sign of serious marital issues.
Now, you face a serious decision of whether to end your marriage or resolve your marital problems. However, how do you determine if a marriage is still worth fixing or not?
Below is a handful of signs to watch out for that will help you decide whether to save your marriage or ask for the help of an attorney to end it.
Experiencing a lack of intimacy
It may sound cliché, but a lack of intimacy is one of the more apparent signs of a failing marriage. It is a given that most couples go through dry spells for one good reason or another; that is normal.
However, when intimacy is at the point of being non-existent, this means there is a bigger underlying problem. There might be issues beyond the lack of interest in sex that they refuse to discuss or fix.
Starting to doubt yourself and your relationship
When you start doubting yourself, there are many possible causes. It could be a horrible mistake at work or something more deep-seated like childhood trauma. However, if your spouse is not prioritizing you or is already devaluing you, that is terrible news for the relationship.
Feeling inadequate or doubting the abilities you once had confidence in is a telltale sign of a toxic relationship.
When your partner constantly puts you down or does not value your opinions, it can affect other aspects of your life. This will make you feel progressively worse over time. Sometimes, this can even cause you to unknowingly alienate those around you and damage relationships outside the marriage, like with family and close friends.
Growing distant from each other
What most newlyweds fail to understand is that people change. That person you walked down the aisle with might become a different person altogether down the road.
Marriage is about compromise and acceptance despite how your partner might change throughout the relationship. It always boils down to whether or not you are willing to live with those changes.
If you can no longer accept the person your partner is or vice versa, then it is best to end the marriage.
A common mistake most couples make is staying together for the children or trying to change each other. That never works. All that accomplishes is a more toxic relationship. If you have children, it will also affect them.
The growing distance between you and your spouse is also one of the most common causes of infidelity. As hard as it is, the best thing you can do for each other at this point is to walk away from the marriage while you still respect each other.
Losing respect for one another
The foundation of a healthy marriage rests on mutual respect and love. Once even one of those is gone, so is the relationship.
It is impossible to keep a marriage going when either of you feel rejected or regularly dismissed. Those feelings of disrespect can quickly turn into contempt, making the relationship even more toxic.
Lack of respect for one’s spouse is like a slow-acting poison that only breeds more toxicity the longer you stay together. That disrespect can turn into disdain, then disgust, before finally turning into hatred or even apathy. You will eventually resent each other so much there will no longer be room for intimacy or communication.
Resorting to domestic violence during fights
Once arguments reach their boiling point and come to blows, there is very little chance it will be the last time. If your partner has it in them to be violent with you once, they will have it in them to do it again.
Do not wait to become a victim of domestic abuse. It is not only dangerous for you. It will also be terrible for your children if you have any.
You should already consider filing for a divorce in situations like these. You should already seek the assistance or advice of a good family lawyer to protect yourself and your children.
Having thoughts of or acting on infidelity
It is perfectly fine for a married individual to find others attractive or even sometimes engage in harmless workplace flirtation. However, you have a severe problem when you think about cheating and act on it.
More often than not, when spouses think about cheating, it is not even about sex. The cause could be a result of many reasons such as:
- Falling out of love
- Feeling taken for granted
- Self-esteem issues
- Lack of intimacy
- Situational factors
Filing for a divorce is probably one of the hardest decisions ever. You are letting go of someone who was once the love of your life, after all. However, if you or your partner shows any of the signs mentioned here, it is time to end things before everything worsens.
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